Is social media turning our daily lives into a ‘Tell all’?

The real issue lies in whether what started as a trend has turned into a way of life in the electronic world.

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“I woke up like this”, “My new look”, “Going shopping”, “Going to bed” are some of the posts a number of social media users put up about their day to day activities, some true others not. But the real issue lies in whether what started as a trend has turned into a way of life in the electronic world.

To delve deep into the matter, I spoke to a number of social media users in regard to what they believe should or shouldn’t be posted online. In other words, when and when not to ‘kiss and tell’.

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Muliika Indy (left), a Ugandan working in the United Arab Emirates (U.A.E) believes it’s not necessary for one to post everything that happens in their life especially bedroom and relationship matters. Although he makes few such posts himself, seeing more of them on other users’ timelines is a preference. “I can’t stop them because most of their posts kill my boredom sometimes. It’s their lives, their phones, their accounts and mainly their opinions”, says Indy.

img-20170119-wa0090But that isn’t the case with Salama Laila (left), a nursing student from Kamuli, Uganda. She says, “People who post nude pics and bedroom matters are peer pressurized”, and she (Laila) continues to be skeptical about the so called “trend” of posting about one’s day to day activities and coital matters.

When asked if she would post about her day to day activities, Nakaima Bahia’s answer is a hefty “never”. The accounts student from Mbarara attributes her decision to the bevy of online trolls to whom the misfortunes of others call for a “LOL” or “LMAO”.

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“Some people online are crazy, you might post wanting some help and people will end up abusing you…So if something happens in my day to day life, I’d rather behave like it never happened…because no one online really cares.”, says Bahia.

For those who post a great deal about their day to day activities online, some feel they have an obligation to do so, like celebrities to their fans. I mean after all the paparazzi already chases after them. But what about the average Joe or Jane, what reasons do they give for posting their day to day activities online?

Mai Abdallah, a Kampala resident posts a great deal about her day to day activities. Scrolling through her Facebook profile is akin to going through the pages of a lifestyle magazine. Posts about when she wakes up, goes to the salon, goes to a party, a new tattoo or in a bikini fill her album.

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Mai

When asked about her reasons for doing so, Mai believes that posting about her day to day activities helps falsify rumors posted about her online. “Those things you are pushed to post not that you want people to know about your day to day life but to prove…..what has been published about your private life by bloggers and newspapers is false. So I end up posting almost everything about me”, says Mai.

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Wadria Derrick, a Nkumba University student argues that posting about one’s day to day activities is symmetrical to the invention of social media. To “socialize”. “It’s very fine with me if I posted something about my life on social media because that’s what it means by socializing. Letting people know you and you knowing them back”, says Derrick.

WHAT THE EXPERTS SAY

There are a series of academic, psychological and sociological theories that explain why people choose to behave the way they do in real life and online. One of them is the Self-verification theory. Wikipedia defines it as;

…a social psychological theory that asserts people want to be known and understood by others according to their firmly held beliefs and feelings about themselves, that is self-views”. Which self-views can be positive or negative.

For example, if a girl believes she has a great body (which is a positive self-view), posting a bikini selfie and attracting likes and good comments will help her “verify” that self-view. And using the same example but on a girl with a negative self-view about her body (being overweight), getting few likes and negative comments will have the same effect, and that is “self-verification”.

Identity Negotiation Theory.

Amana Kaskazi, from the University of Michigan and author of; “Social Network Identity: Facebook, Twitter and Identity Negotiation Theory” describes in detail the ‘Identity Negotiation Theory’:

 “Identity negotiation theory is a sociological process in which people assign roles during the formation of a relationship. It is broken into two components. In the first phase people look for others who see them as they see themselves and approach interactions that are likely to uphold their self-view and self-esteem. This is known as self-verification. In the second phase people make predictions about how the other person will behave, and then act in ways that are likely to make the prediction true. This is called behavioral confirmation (Swann & Ely, 1984).

In his publication, Amana argues that Social Network Sites (SNS) like Facebook and Twitter “enable users to negotiate an identity online”. By creating a profile with aspects like age, gender, employment and others in relation to one’s self-view.

That’s why on social media, “Nakigudde” can turn into “Naks”, a Ugandan resident can “live in New York and work in Pyongyang”, a “single” person can become “engaged” and so on and so forth. Amana further argues that; “In order to protect their identity and preserve their self-view, users are less likely to add someone who might threaten their identity”.

Perhaps that’s why some people won’t add their parents, lecturers, priests, neighbors and other close individuals on social media. Thanks a lot for reading. And please share and keep following Adam’s Blog.

References

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-verification_theory

‘Social Network Identity: Facebook, Twitter and Identity Negotiation Theory’: Amana Kaskazi, University of Michigan.

Sports can eliminate the disunity politics and religion create

For decades, the growth of our nation has been stunted by religious and political skirmishes, but sport has shown how vital a tool it can be in annihilating the inhibitors of our development.

September 4th will forever be heralded by Ugandans as the day they qualified for the continent’s premier football competition following a 38-year old wait.

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Uganda Cranes team united the nation with their win against Comoros

Playing at home, in their famous Mandela National Stadium (Namboole), this vital match brought with it, a mixture of optimism and nervousness as memories of the team’s previous disappointments still lingered in the fan’s minds.

But the match also brought about a sense of unity in the country that didn’t even exist during the fight against colonialism. In the 90 minutes of the game we teased ourselves of what this nation should be.

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Education and Sport Minister Janet Museveni (In white top) celebrates cranes victory will fellows at Namboole.

We stood united in support of a single cause, under the Black,Yellow, Red flag. Putting aside our political, religious and social affiliations. At the game, Janet Museveni was the Minister of Education and Sports not the wife of the man some believe has been in power for too long.

In those 90 minutes, Sheikh Shaban Mubajje was the leader of all Muslims in Uganda, not Old Kampala, not Kibuli, not the Tabliq, not the Salafis, but all Muslims in Uganda. There was no NRM or FDC supportets at the game, only Ugandans supporting their team.

And when Farouk Miya scored that memorable goal in the 34th minute, we rose in celebration as a nation, not as tribes or Muslims and Christians.

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Farouk Miya's goal took Uganda to the promised land

For decades, the growth of our nation has been stunted by religious and political skirmishes, but sport has shown how vital a tool it can be in annihilating the inhibitors of our development.

Thank you very much for reading. And congragulations to the Uganda Cranes for making us proud. Have a great week.

What impact should old social media posts have on your future?

Maybe 4 years from now someone will pull out an old post of yours and suggest you’re a rebel

The sports media fraternity was over the weekend awash with tweets that were posted by Burnley FC striker Andrey Gray four years ago. The tweets contained language that was deemed “homophobic”, ” sexist” and “racist”. For a man who had helped his team to a 2-0 win by scoring the second goal against Liverpool, one would have expected cheers and lauds but the response he got online was the kind that no match winning goal scorer would ever want.

Gray was able to issue an apology through the club’s official social media page which contributed mere to nothing in as far as reducing the social media outrage was concerned. Andre Gray wouldn’t happen to be the first let alone the last human being to post a line or two on social media, and he sure as hell won’t be the last to get stick for it, years later.

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Burnely Striker Andre Gray was widely criticised for a homophobic tweet he made 4 years ago

It could be you, maybe 4 years from now someone will pull out an old post of yours and suggest you’re a rebel, and at the moment it won’t matter whether you posted it as a joke or copied it from another person’s timeline. The social media world will judge you like Benjamin Odoki in his prime.

Your critics will at this point appear to have been right all along. Your employers will suspend or even fire you. Your entire world will collapse about you, just because you made an ironic post 5 years ago about how good the Gaddafi regime was or about who should or shouldn’t sleep with who.

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Social media allows users to post views and opinions, some of which may stir a negative response from other users

The retrieval of these old posts by whoever is responsible should in no way be separated from ill intent and/or sabotage of one’s career and life. You ever wonder why such old posts resurface when one is running for president, newly married or has recently acquired a prestigious job?

It is the timing of the resurfacing of old posts that raises eyebrows. Andre Gray’s tweets were released a few hours after Burnely beat Liverpool 2-0 on Saturday. A game in which Gray’s goal dealt a coup de grace to the Kops. So instead of Gray being in the news as a hero, he was the biggest villain of the back pages.

Reading through most of comments that followed the released tweets, one argument seemed to be more prominent than others. And that’s whether Gray has changed from the man who posted those words 4 years back, and whether it is relevant to harshly criticise him “now” and not “when” he made those posts.

Perhaps maybe racial, sexist and homophobic remarks weren’t very clear to social media users 4 years ago, or it’s just social media’s contribution to the surging levels of euphemism.

On social media, terms like Terrorist, Rebel, Racist, Anti-Semite, Sexist, Blasphemer and others are interchangeably and in most cases wrongly used to refer to Muslims, Freedom Fighters, Gender equality activists, Arabs, liberals and anti-Zionists. Just as I wrote about in this similar article Amin wasn’t an Anti-Semite but an Anti-Zionist

And for those willing to ruin one’s life or career, pulling out an old post of yours could be the difference between you being a racist in 2016 for a tweet you made in 2012. So the next time you post something on social media, ask yourself how much impact that post will/should have on your future.

Thanks alot for reading. Keep reading and I’ll keep writing.

Sometimes you have to be bad to become great

If Ronaldo was to pass more to his teammates while in the box, his goal tally will eventually drop, he’ll become one of those many players who score between 10-20 goals a season. You know them, the mediocre players.

Through out the ages, society has coined terms to address people it deems “bad”, terms like selfish, greedy, envious among others.

And in most cases we end up spending our lives trying to avoid being called any of these terms that our lives never get to rise beyond mediocre. 

Cristiano Ronaldo, one of the greatest footballers has often been called selfish for not passing the ball to others when he has sight of goal. But it’s b’se of this “selfishness” that he scores more goals than his teammates, becomes top scorer and eventually wins the Ballon D’or.

If you choose to be unselfish then society will still coin a term for you. Let’s take an example of a woman, a woman who is “unselfish” towards men’s advances will be branded a b**ch by the same society that condemns being “selfish”. Which prompts a question, how can one be unselfish without being something bad?

Well, the answer to this question does exist but society will never say it out loud. The answer is ” mediocrity”.

Back to Ronaldo. If Ronaldo was to pass more to his teammates while in the box, his goal tally will eventually drop, he’ll become one of those many players who score between 10-20 goals a season. You know them, the mediocre players.

This poses another question, in your life as a doctor, teacher, businessman, nurse or any other job, do you want to be Cristiano Ronaldo or Olivier Giroud?.

If your answer is the former, then you should stop minding about how society will brand you b’se that’s what’s keeping you in that mediocre job, that mediocre life, that mediocre income.

In the series “Spartacus: War of the Damned”, Marcus Licinius Crassus (Played by Simon Merrells) was the richest man in Rome. At one point he was criticised by a Roman General who branded him “greedy” for his desire to conquer more places despite being the richest man in Rome.

It is Crassus’s response that sent the General into silence. He said:

“Greed is but a word jealous men inflict upon the ambitious.”

To you my reader, never desist from pursuing your ambitions, b’se most of your critics especially those in society are just jealous of you and your ambitions.

The corrupt are murderers

Many Ugandans die every year but none of these deaths ever get traced back to their root cause, CORRUPTION.

To the corrupt, very few ever think about the outcome of their actions. Outcomes such as loss of lives, property and livelihoods. To them, taking money through corruption simply means a new car, a new house among other luxuries.

But for the people that money was meant for, it would have been their only hope of survival and its disappearance is fast ticket to the grave.

Most corrupt people may claim innocence about the people that die due to their actions, but this doesn’t simply mean they are innocent. Lawyers have a term for this kind of murder, they call it “involuntary manslaughter”.

For every man, woman & child who dies of malaria because some one in the ministry of health has embezzled money for mosquito nets and medicine is equal to involuntary manslaughter.

Every construction worker who gets crushed by a building because the engineers have embezzled the money is an act of murder.

Many soldiers die because someone high up in the chain of command is embezzling funds meant to purchase logistics for front line troops.

Women and babies are lost daily in labour wards because someone embezzled the money for medical supplies and equipment. Tell me how this isn’t murder.

Most road accidents occur as a result of poor roads, but someone in Uganda National Roads Authority (UNRA) stole the money to construct a safer four-lane road.

It is for this reason that I stress the fact that, The Corrupt are murderers. Adam’s blog condemns all corrupt activities. Thanks for reading. Have a fantastic week.